Can you build a good marriage if no one at home ever showed you how? After twenty-five years together, Adam and Estera talk about their beginnings, the very different families they came from, the disappointments, the arguments that are funny only in hindsight, and everything they had to learn from scratch. Drawing on Colossians 3 and Ephesians 5, they speak about mutual submission that is not servility but respect and self-giving, and about leaving your parents, without which it is hard to build a home of your own. Listen if you want your ordinary home to become an extraordinary one.
Discussion questions
For your small group or for personal reflection after the sermon.
- In Colossians 3:18-19 Paul calls wives to submit and husbands to love without bitterness. How does the call in Ephesians 5:21 to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ change the way you read this passage?
- Paul compares a husband's love to the way Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. What does this picture show about what biblical love is, and what it is not?
- Estera said a wife's submission is expressed through respect, and Adam said a husband's submission means unconditional sacrifice. Which of these attitudes seems harder to you, and why?
- The sermon said that love has more to do with daily choices than with changing feelings. How does this conviction shape the way you build your relationships?
- How does a relationship change when instead of asking "who is in charge?" we start asking "how can I serve you?", and where do you see a need for that shift in your home or circle?
- What is one concrete step you can take this week to show respect or sacrificial love to someone close to you, such as listening attentively, appreciating their strengths, or spending intentional time together?
